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1. As a young person in a love relationship it is (or was)…
a. … natural for me to think right away about starting a family with this person.
b. … confusing to be in love. I tend feel ambivalent about whether or not I want to commit to this person. I’m afraid of losing my freedom.
c. …confusing to be in love. I am so full of emotional reactions that it makes life very stormy.
d. … confusing to be in love. I make a lot of wrong choices even though I don’t see it at the time.
e. … natural for me to take my time and make sure I make the right choice, but to still enjoy myself in the process. It is important for me to have a partner who shares my sense of purpose in the world.
2. I gain spiritual strength from…
a. I wish I knew where to get spiritual strength from.
b. …the teachings and religious practices I was raised with that are an important part of my community and the foundation of the society I live in.
c. …the look in my child’s eyes.
d. …contact with the Divine essence found at the core of my being.
e. Personal strength is more important to me than spiritual strength.
3. Guilt…
a. …can be a powerful way to try to get people to do what I know they need to do. I don’t misuse it, but from time to time everybody needs a bit of extra motivation.
b. …tends to really haunt me. I feel responsible for a lot of things that I really can’t change or do anything about.
c. …is a useless emotion. While most people have some regrets in life, I know how to feel true regret for any of my mistakes. I know what my true responsibilities are and I tend to focus on them in the moment and move on towards the future.
4. Intimacy…
a. …is only achieved through a lot of compromise. Sometimes I wonder if it is really worth it.
b. …is a happy family.
c. …is intimacy with self first and foremost. True intimacy can only be achieved by two independent persons who are then able to share through their deep trust in life and themselves.
5. The thing(s) I long most to do in the world is…
a. … find personal freedom.
b. … discover who I really am.
c. … find someone to love me as I am.
d. … find someone to love and raise a family with.
e. … get out of this mess I find myself in.
f. … see the members of our family be at peace once again.
g. … see my troubled child lead a happy life.
h. … make contact with the divine – fulfill my spiritual path.
i. … make the important changes that I know the world really needs.
6. I think the information on this site...
a. … is unsettling. I don’t really know why, but I don’t like some of the things that it has to say.
b. … isn’t very good. I can see a lot of holes in its logic.
c. … is inspiring and uplifting. I really like it.
d. …will help a lot of people.
e. …is fascinating. I’d like to be in third stage but don’t know how it would be possible.
f. …is OK. I guess I could take it or leave it.
7. Visualizing infinity
a. Everyone knows that the human mind cannot truly conceive of infinity.
b. …is literally quite easy for me. I can see it clearly in my mind.
c. There isn’t any real point to doing that is there?
d. ...is not very easy for me to do but with practice I can make some headway.
8. When there is a big crisis my first instinct is to…
a. Look after those in my care or turn to the person who is supposed to look after me.
b. Find a safe place to hide.
c. Find a safe place to hide. I can feel myself shutting down.
d. Lose it.
e. Panic and try to look after others. What happens to me doesn’t matter.
f. Get ready to attack the threat.
g. Take my cues from the situation. See the bigger picture and do whatever is needed while staying in touch with myself.
h. Turn to the spiritual help that is always there for me.
9. My life
a. …is really quite ordinary and average. I can’t say I have any reason to complain.
b. …is really quite ordinary and average. Most people do have a pretty rough life really and I guess mine is no exception. But there is no reason to make a big deal about it. If you keep going you can get things to turn out OK. Keep your head down and your ears clean.
c. …is driving me crazy with the amount of crisis I am experiencing right now. When will it all be over? It seems like it is just one thing after another.
d. …is an exciting adventure. Might be cliché but it is true. I don’t mind being a happy cliché.
10. Happiness
a. …comes and goes, everyone knows that. No reason to be unhappy with your lot in life though.
b. Is anyone really happy?
c. …seems to always be an illusive dream for me.
d. …is something I am working hard to one day achieve. I’ll never give up on trying to get what I want out of life.
e. …is something I am working hard to one day achieve. I keep working on myself and my emotions. I am determined to solve life’s spiritual riddle.
f. …is my natural state of being. I don’t really think about it.
g. …is my natural state of being. Whatever may be happening on the surface of life I have a deep core of basic contentment. I feel I’ve solved many of the riddles of life.
11. When things get rough…
a. …I often feel like I just can’t take it anymore. Sometimes I want to completely throw in the towel and give up on life and myself. My life right now seems so difficult and then it gets even worse!?! It feels so hopeless sometimes.
b. …I know I can make it through. Beneath it all I have a deep sense of satisfaction in life. Even when things look rough I know there is a reason for everything that happens and I trust in the outcome of my life’s experience. All of life – positive or negative – is a grand adventure that I find fascinating to watch and feel honored to experience.
c. …I just take a break from it all. I read a book, go to a bar, talk to my friends. I have my ways of escaping. I just try to forget all about it. There’s really nothing else you can do except wait for the storm to be over. Then life gets back to normal.
d. …I’m strong enough to handle most of the difficulties in life. Things never really get that rough. I do whatever needs to be done and then relax and leave the rest to work itself out. Somehow life always tends to work out in my favor – more often sooner than later.
12. My parents:
a. Have always been happily married.
b. Had their relationships struggles but are now happily married (to one another or to other people).
c. Aren’t very happy but they stay together.
d. I did not have two parents.
e. Have split up. They are still not very happy people.
f. Have split up. One is happy, one is not.
g. Have split up. Single or married, they are both happy people.
13. The family I grew up in:
a. Was pretty normal and stable. I guess I should be thankful.
b. Was pretty normal and stable. I wonder what happened to me?
c. Was a mess.
d. Was a mess but we managed anyway.
e. Was a mess and I am now doing all I can to heal myself as a result.
f. Was a mess, but I’ve come a long way since then and can look back on all of my experiences with gratitude. I love my family but know when to keep my distance if necessary.
g. Had its problems, but in the long run things have worked out well.
h. Was absolutely amazing. I am so thankful to have been born into that family and realize how lucky I was to grow up in such a special environment.
14. My mother…
a. …did the best she could in the terrible conditions we faced. She was a true mother throughout it all.
b. …was/is a real mother. She put the children first without thinking of herself and as a result we had/have a wonderful family. I am trying to follow the example set by my family when I raise my own.
c. …was neglectful or absent.
d. …raised me without a father.
e. …was abusive and had a terrible temper.
f. …was pretty manipulative and made me feel guilty a lot. I am trying to rise above that early programming.
g. …wasn’t very conscious. She had her problems but did the best that she could. In some ways she just doesn’t understand me, but that’s OK; I have my own life.
h. …was/is a very spiritual person in her own unique way. She set a great example as a mother and as a human being. She has encouraged me in my life purpose and enlightened me as to its meaning.
15. My father…
a. …was neglectful or absent.
b. …wasn’t the most important person in the family, but he played his own special role. He helped to hold the fort for us all and like my mother, made the necessary sacrifices quite gladly.
c. …did the best he could in the terrible conditions we faced. He was a true father throughout it all.
d. …was/is a spiritual/philosophical sort of person who really helped contribute to my philosophy of life. He was/is one of the aces up my sleeve.
e. …raised me without a mother.
f. …was abusive and had a terrible temper.
g. …was very much in the background while my mother ran the show. I wish he had stood up for me more.
h. …was very much in the background while my mother ran the show. That’s OK because she was the only really important parent anyway.
i. …really helped me to overcome the negative tendencies of my mother. He was the ace up my sleeve.
